Today I'd like to talk about something that's been new to me over the past few months since becoming a mother. Personal grace.
When I was pregnant with Theodore I started making crafts galore. Well, actually I did that before I knew of him, I just love crafts in general. When I was expecting him though, it was something I excitedly did out of preparation. I made a few terribly ugly crafts before committing to an embroidery hoop that I was going to put the letter "T" . It was half way done when I realized that it too, was not quite terrible, but it was certainly not perfect. The pattern was crooked, the little lines were different sizes, and it just wasn't looking like I'd imagined. It was then that I made the decision, to accept the imperfections within every craft, to go without fixing them, and to finish them as is, and display them around our home as reminders to myself that I do not have to be perfect as a wife or as a mother. I'm not a perfectionist, that's for sure, just ask anyone who's eaten any of the meals I've made- it will fill you up for sure, but it may not be all that flavourful. But for some reason, I put this expectation on myself that I can do everything perfectly. I want to be the woman that hosts beautiful and perfect meals, who doesn't have permanent bags under her eyes, who bakes homemade bread in the morning and sews clothing for her children at night. Somehow this woman I've created in my mind, also has freshly non-chipped nails, proper eyebrows (which is so unfortunate that eyebrows are so in style these days...so.much.upkeep). She is well-rested, the beds are made, she has lots of friends, she has time to read and keep up to date on the news, and she probably even works out. And her kids love her because she is also always taking time to be with them. And she does cloth diapers. And she grows all of their food organically. ... Etc Etc Etc. Why is it so easy to be full of grace for others, and yet the standard we hold ourselves too is SO. RIDICULOUSLY. HIGH. ?! Someone on Facebook shared a blog awhile ago, and there was a phrase in it that talked about only doing what is yours to do. It was about picking a few things that you are passionate about, and focussing on those, and letting the rest slide a bit, or simply not allowing yourself to feel guilty about not doing. That resonated with me. I will probably never have a wonderful garden in the backyard, at least not for the next 6 years. I will probably never be one to wake up early and make a breakfast for my family other than boxed cereal and toast. I will probably never be able to sew a quilt, even though I find them so beautiful and would love to be able to. I will probably never be able to knit from a pattern. I will probably always make ugly crafts that I'm proud of anyways, I will probably always have bags under my eyes. I will probably always make dinner from a box once or twice a week. I will probably always put more energy into baking than cooking. I will probably always be terrible at writing thank you cards. I will probably always have one room in the house that is messy, that I just somehow cannot keep on top of. And I'm deciding to be ok with that. I'd extend that grace to others, and I think it's time to extend it to myself.
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12/5/2016 02:49:48 am
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6/7/2017 01:40:23 am
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Alex Kuter
10/26/2017 05:17:15 am
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